A Great Idea …
“When a woman asks [a man] to “get in touch with his feelings,” it’s like asking him to get in touch with a red-hot horseshoe. Here is the key to remember about a man’s emotions: he … Read more
Speak From Peace
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“We can’t help feeling angry or upset with our children from time to time, but, as a rule, it’s not a good idea to discipline your children when you’re mad or distressed. Your anger may be … Read more
Feelings Come First
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“When children are in the midst of strong emotions, they cannot listen to anyone. They cannot accept advice or consolation or constructive criticism. They want us to understand what is going on inside them, what they
… Read more Compassion For All
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“You won’t learn anything by beating yourself up or condemning your partner when either of you makes a mistake … Compassion for yourself means understanding how difficult it is to change old patterns and how much … Read more
A Jack of All Trades
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“Not being everything is smart; not working on everything but rather emphasizing selected strengths is the route to excellence. For many people, this understanding requires a redirection of the doing all and being all to being
… Read more Reasonable Rules
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“Changing rules when appropriate shows your child that your rules are grounded in sense, not just based on who’s in charge. This is crucial, because believing that rules are fair and sensible is what gets children … Read more
Imprisoned By Your Emotions
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“Emotions, left to themselves, will dissipate…Expressed and dwelt upon, though, emotions multiply and imprison you in a vicious cycle of dealing fruitlessly with past wrongs.”
(Psychologist Martin E. P. Seligman in his book, Authentic Happiness, p.
… Read more Automated Irritation
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“So many heartaches could be prevented if couples gave each other the benefit of the doubt or simply paused to get more information. When you have a strong reaction to an everyday event your first response
… Read more Navigating Life’s Journey
For years I have collected excellent quotes from the great books by the world’s leading family scholars. Recently we started a program to share those quotes. Every week we create a message in each of three subject areas: personal development, … Read more
How Are You?
A friend asked “How are you?” and wanted an answer beyond the superficial. After writing my answer, it struck me that this little slice of our history is typical of mortality—filled with challenges AND happy purpose.
How was my day? … Read more