How Are You?

A friend asked “How are you?” and wanted an answer beyond the superficial. After writing my answer, it struck me that this little slice of our history is typical of mortality—filled with challenges AND happy purpose.

How was my day? What a great question! Last night we hosted a party at our house for Nancy’s RS presidency and their families. We pretty much got our place in order (We’re somewhat laid back–we never dust and fret.) and I put the burgers on the grill and they locked in the heat and started a gigantic grease fire in our grill and I singed all the hair on my arms trying to put out the fire (no big deal–I never use that hair anyway) by squirting water into the grill and turned a lot of stuff black and ended up with burgers that were cooked just right on the top half and were pure charcoal on the bottom half (a couple of the teens begged to take home the remains!) and people arrived and I sent Peter Stuckey to the store for more burger and lots of people said they loved burned burgers (Makes me laugh! Charity never faileth!!) and the kids played with our pet baby squirrel (from tree cut down in daughter’s yard last Saturday) and I bustled about building a fire for S’mores (behind our house there are woods) and getting chocolate and other essentials to the appropriate places and worrying just a little about the kids on our zipline–but being glad that they were having fun (You should have seen little Lyric laugh!) and we shot our potato gun (but didn’t have any spuds so we shot apples into the woods) and coached the kids as they played with Squirt who preferred to ride around in my pants pocket, and, enjoying one of the second round of burgers that I thought was perfect but my judgment may have been influenced by the long wait for it and, by the time they all left, and the chairs were back in the house and the big table (that I am refinishing) was back in the garage, my (chronic degenerative) back was collapsing–threatening to put me into several days of bedrest since I am already at maximum dosage of anti-inflammatories so I asked Nancy if we could wash dishes in the morning (Not my usual press-forward-at-all-costs way) and we watched an episode of Lie to Me which was interrupted by some problem with our wireless router (which I tried to diagnose for half an hour (I was unusually patient for being Wally) so we hunched over the computer to watch the last of the show and collapsed into bed and woke to hug Nancy this morning for a good 45 minutes–one of my favorite things in the universe–and wash dishes and sign tax forms and dash to work with my back doing a little better but my knee complaining (too much jogging!) and wondering how to be healthy if I can’t run and facing a performance appraisal in an hour with a boss who likes to motivate through negativity and never grants any positives but who will probably give me about a 94% rating anyway and I’ll try to look past her negativity and remember that yesterday I got to buy three dozen luxury cupcakes for co-workers to celebrate junior colleagues promotion (and I personally ate a carrot cake one–yummy!—and took one home to Nancy) and I am blessed to do work I love that lets me learn, share, and create while being paid tolerably–a luxury that only a handful of people in the tortured history of this world have enjoyed and I got to read an inspiring talk by a sweet friend and remember how amazing the gospel is–that I can be a mess–full of selfishness and complaint–and God just keeps blessing me, loving me, and inviting me to the heavenly embrace–teaching me all the while.

How could life be any better???

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  • Reply Shannon April 6, 2011 at 11:16 am

    Posted a smile of understanding on my face. Life IS Good!

    Thanks for sharing

  • Reply jael April 6, 2011 at 11:37 am

    As usual, you bring us a chuckle…. relaxing us a bit from stupefying guilt, reminding us that Father loves us as imperfect as we all are:) Thanks for the candid, humorous and lovely peek at a few hours of your own precious mortal life.

    Thank you! Thank you!


  • Reply Wally Tukukino April 6, 2011 at 11:38 am

    Life is like all of what u have written Our daughter moved into our 2nd estate. She left a thort 4 us – “Live, love, learn and leave a Legacy”.

  • Reply Myke Weber April 6, 2011 at 1:03 pm

    Well, it would definitely be better if you shot glow sticks out of your potato gun (after dark of course). Other than that I wouldn’t change a thing.

    Love you brother!


  • Reply Myke Weber April 6, 2011 at 1:10 pm

    Oh and since that was the longest sentence I’ve read in a long long time I was thankful it was interrupted by laughs as there wasn’t much breathing room in the punctuation.

  • Reply jenni April 6, 2011 at 1:25 pm

    That was beautiful!

  • Reply Peggy April 6, 2011 at 1:31 pm

    Thanks for another uplifting, fun, warm, human trying to be better, hopeful, looking for and finding the good post. They make me feel less stressed or alone in the journey.

  • Reply Cherlynn April 6, 2011 at 4:49 pm

    I love each new day! I should of been dead years ago but Heavenly Father seemed to think I was still needed so hours away from death a priesthood blessing cured me. I count each and every day as a great blessing and no matter what happens it’s a great adventure and tomorrow is a new day! Love your life and share with others. I learned my neighbors don’t bite at all! getting to know them has been a great blessing!

  • Reply Virginia April 7, 2011 at 9:30 am

    That must be in the books as one of the longest sentences ever written (at least by an LDS author…).
    Makes me wonder how some people would react if I answered their query of ‘how was your day’ with the same enthusiasm, and honesty. LOL I think it would be interesting to watch their reactions!

    We are such fascinating creatures, we humans, aren’t we?

    Thanks for being so human and warm, you are encouraging and have an open-ness about you that makes me want to be better just because. What’s the opposite of obtuse? You are that.

    Thanks again for an uplift this day.

  • Reply Cindy April 7, 2011 at 12:46 pm

    Beautiful! The good, the burnt, and the ugly all meshing into a wonderful life…

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