Here’s a great idea …
In his book, Parents and the Dynamics of Child Rearing, George Holden says, “An effective parent cannot act the same way across all situations, to different children, or across time and still be effective. Rather, parenting changes from moment to moment.” (p. 185)
In other words …
Our parenting techniques have to be constantly changing. What works for one child may not work for another and the methods that worked with our children at age five will probably not be as effective at age fifteen. Flexibility is a key factor in effective parenting. We need to take each situation’s unique circumstances into consideration before deciding what to do.
How you can use this idea to have a better life …
The next time you need to make a decision about your child, take a few moments to reflect. Are your previous guidelines for similar situations still applicable? Do they fit the current needs of your child and the situation? After taking these things into consideration, you can then make a more effective decision as a parent.
To find out more …
about parenting, check out The Parenting Journey or See the World Through My Eyes programs at arfamilies.org, follow us at facebook.com/navigatinglife or contact your local county Extension agent. You can also read Holden’s Parents and Dynamics of Child Rearing.
