A Great Idea …
“People who make permanent and universal explanations for good events, as well as temporary and specific explanations for bad events, bounce back from troubles briskly and get on a roll easily when they succeed once.” (Psychologist Martin E. P. Seligman in his book, Authentic Happiness, p. 93)
In Other Words …
We all fail from time to time. But people who think they fail because of factors they can’t change, get discouraged-and fail lots more. In contrast, people who fail at something and recognize that they can change-that they will have better days or learn important lessons-are likely to fail less and succeed more.
When good things happen, we can make more good things likely by thinking: “I’m lucky,” or “Things work out for me.” Such optimism leads to more success.
How this Applies to You …
When something goes wrong, look for things you can change. When things go well, look for the good things in your life that keep bringing you success.
To Find Out More …
For excellent (and free!) programs on improving your personal well being, check out The Personal Journey and Managing Stress at www.arfamilies.org.
For in-depth reading, we recommend Authentic Happiness by Martin E.P. Seligman or Stumbling on Happiness by Daniel Gilbert.
