Getting Over Ourselves

A Great Idea …

“Happy people [are] more likely to demonstrate more empathy and are willing to donate more money to others in need. When we are happy, we are less self-focused. Looking out for number one is more characteristic of sadness than of well-being.” (Psychologist Martin E. P. Seligman in his book, Authentic Happiness, p. 43)

In Other Words …

There are always difficulties for us to fret about. Dwelling on them will make us sad. We can choose to change our focus from our discontents to the needs of others. Actively helping others is one of the best ways to lift our own spirits. We find ourselves by losing ourselves in helping others.

How this Applies to You …

Next time you are fretting about something in your life or are bothered by sadness, try turning your thoughts and actions to helping the people around you. Can you offer a kind word to a co-worker? Can you help a family member with a task?

To Find Out More …

For excellent (and free!) programs on improving your personal well being, check out The Personal Journey and Managing Stress at

For more in-depth reading we recommend Authentic Happiness by Martin E.P. Seligmanor The How of Happiness by Sonja Lyubomirsky.

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