A Great Idea …
“Seeing our partner’s point of view is essential to nurturing our relationships. How can we respond lovingly to our partners’ needs and preferences when we don’t know their needs and preferences? We must get outside of … Read more
Month: September 2011
An Upward Spiral
A Great Idea …
“When people feel positive emotion, they are jolted into a different way of thinking and acting. Their thinking becomes creative and broad-minded, and their actions become adventurous and exploratory. This expanded repertoire creates mastery over challenges, … Read more
Blame It On The Rain
A Great Idea …
“When children cannot find good ways to get their needs met, they may resort to terrorism, not out of spiteful nastiness, or stubbornness but out of desperation. Maybe rather than wanting power over the family, a … Read more
Negativity Spiral
A Great Idea …
“You can work your way out of a reasonably good marriage by focusing on what you are not getting out of it and turning negative toward your mate, who will in turn give you even less … Read more
Write To Heal
A Great Idea …
“Simply writing about a trauma-such as the death of a loved one or a physical assault-can lead to surprising improvements in both subjective well-being and physical health. What’s more, the people who experience the greatest benefit … Read more
Look Past The Pain
A Great Idea …
“It seems wise to give your partner the benefit of the doubt whenever possible. When you feel hurt, look carefully to see if the offense was the result of an honest mistake. For most of us, … Read more
Letting Yourself Off The Hook
A Great Idea …
“Forgiveness is the blessing we bestow on not just those who have hurt us, but upon ourselves. Forgiveness knocks down the walls around love that hate can build….Forgiveness isn’t forgetting. It’s just leaving behind your own … Read more
Weed Your Own Garden
A Great Idea …
“It is human nature to notice mistakes and weaknesses in others. At the same time, we tend to excuse our own mistakes because of stress or pressure. Yet the way to strengthen a relationship is to … Read more
Dealing With Children’s Feelings
A Great Idea …
“Fish swim, birds fly, and people feel. Children cannot help how they feel, but they are responsible for the way they express these feelings. Thus they cannot be held responsible for their feelings but only for … Read more
Small Things Make Big Differences
A Great Idea …
“Good things and high accomplishments, studies have shown, have astonishingly little power to raise happiness more than transiently: In less than three months, major events…lose their impact on happiness levels.” (Psychologist Martin E. P. Seligman in … Read more