The Extraordinary Partner

A Great Idea …

“Seeing our partner’s point of view is essential to nurturing our relationships. How can we respond lovingly to our partners’ needs and preferences when we don’t know their needs and preferences? We must get outside of our own views and into our partners’ views if we hope to nurture a vibrant relationship.” (Professors of Family Life, H. Wallace Goddard and James P. Marshall, in their book, The Marriage Garden pp. 62-63)

In Other Words …

Each of us sees our own point of view. But that is only half of the story-or maybe less. When it comes to loving our partners effectively, our partners are the experts. We should listen carefully. We should notice their preferences. Seeing our partners’ points of view enlarges our understanding and broadens our horizons.

How This Applies to You…

Do you want to be an expert partner? The thing that separates ordinary from extraordinary partners is the willingness to take their partners’ points of view. So think about your partner’s hopes and dreams, struggles and disappointments. Then take genuine interest and show heartfelt support. You will become one of the extraordinary partners.

To Find Out More…

For more great ideas (or to share your ideas) check out the Navigating Life’s Journey blog

For an excellent (and free!) program on marriage, see The Marriage Garden at Arkansas Families.

For an excellent book focused on marriage, read The Marriage Garden by H. Wallace Goddard and James P. Marshall or The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman.

Author: H. Wallace Goddard

Wally Goddard is a retired professor of Family Life having served in Arkansas and Alabama. He developed programs on personal well-being, marriage, and parenting. He is well known for his many creative family programs, including The Marriage Garden, The Parenting Journey, and Blueprint for Happiness. Wally has authored or co-authored several books including Between Parent and Child, The Soft-Spoken Parent, and Drawing Heaven into Your Marriage. He has been recognized by his colleagues with several awards including the Outstanding Family Life Educator Award. Wally and his wife, Nancy, have three adult children, fourteen grandchildren, and have cared for many foster children over the years. Wally describes Nancy as the finest human being he has ever known. View all posts by H. Wallace Goddard