A Great Idea …
“If the only solution to the problem is that your spouse needs to make a change, you have put yourself in a terribly weak position. Because you have no control over what your spouse does or doesn’t do.” (Susan Page, in her book, Why Talking is Not Enough, p. 71)
In Other Words …
We are quick to blame our partners when things go wrong. When we blame, we refuse responsibility and, in the process, we also relinquish power. This choice leaves us at the mercy of our partners’ willingness to change. There is a better way. We can identify a way that we can bring more love and light into the relationship. We can choose loving actions.
How This Applies to You…
The next time you are tempted to blame something on your partner, pause a moment. Find ways that you can improve the situation. When you work to actively build your relationship instead of waiting on your partner to do it, you will be empowering yourself and your relationship.
To Find Out More…
For more great ideas (or to share your ideas) check out the Navigating Life’s Journey blog
For an excellent (and free!) program on marriage, see The Marriage Garden at Arkansas Families.
For an excellent book focused on marriage, read Why Talking is Not Enough by Susan Page or The Marriage Garden by H. Wallace Goddard and James P. Marshall.
