A big chunk of parenting time and energy is spent trying to get children to do some things or stop them from doing others. In the course of trying to get our children to “behave,” most of
Category: Parenting
When We Ask the Wrong Question We Always Get the Wrong Answer
by H. Wallace Goddard
Recently I served on a panel at a parenting conference. At the end of the panelists’ presentations we invited questions from the audience. A young and earnest mother with a baby in her arms asked, “I … Read more
Solving Parenting Problems
Sometimes the harder we try to solve a problem with a child, the worse it gets. For example, when we nag children to hurry and get ready, they drag their heels. The more we demand that they eat a certain … Read more
Teaching Our Children to Love and Serve Each Other
Quarreling and bickering among siblings are painfully common in family life. It seems that the natural child is an enemy not only to God but also to brothers and sisters.
While children are declared innocent because of the atonement (D&C … Read more
Teaching Our Children to Trust God
“Believe in yourself.” “Love yourself.” “Trust yourself.” These messages abound. The very modern and progressive remedy for mortal misery is to build faith in the self. Many of us have tried this formula in our own lives. We have taught … Read more
Effective Parenting is More than Limits and Consequences
Imagine that your 5-year-old is playing with his toys when a neighbor child comes to the door asking your child to come out and play. Let’s imagine that you had established earlier in the day that you expected your son … Read more
Better Ways of Disciplining
I was chatting with a friend in the entrance to his garage one Saturday morning. As we spoke, his young son rode into the garage on his bike and parked it in front of the old family station wagon. Apparently, … Read more
Good Control and Bad Control in Parenting
Imagine that you find a policeman at your door one Saturday morning. You’re surprised. You ask how you can help him. “Apparently your teenage son was out with his friends last night and they blew up Mrs. Jones’ mailbox. She … Read more
Reading Children’s Instruction Manuals
I have heard the saying “children don’t come with instruction manuals” hundreds of times. The saying has always annoyed me; I don’t believe it.
Children do come with manuals. They are the manuals! In everything they say and do they … Read more
The Perils of Praise
What’s your reaction if I tell you that you are the sweetest, finest, brightest, most talented and beautiful person I have ever known?
You will probably have several reactions:
1. It’s nice to be appreciated. It feels good.
2. I’m … Read more